Search russian wife - a myth or a reality?

"Walking" on various sites, frequently I meet such formulation, as " the cheap wife from Russia ". There is for some reason an opinion, that men bring to themselves wives because of ocean as it very economically to have the Russian wife. I can not understand whence such opinion has undertaken?!! I shall try to dispel this myth as actually the marriage on Russian entails rather decent monetary expenses.

Before I shall start to tell, should admit, that unfortunately, really there are some foreign men who completely agree with above mentioned myth. They and speak: " I want to marry on Russian because it is necessary nothing to them, and they are able to work well at home ". Also some separate copies of foreign men can send the wife to the stomatologist to Russia while he treats a teeth in the homeland in one of the most prestigious clinics. And it is good still, if russian wife in general will give money to go home. But if you have head on shoulders at a choice of your future partner in life you never will manage to leave in marriage for the similar person. And the good and decent men, wishing to get acquainted with Russian women, here it is valid much. Believe me on a word. It is just necessary to search, and to you will necessarily carry!

Further I the question will be normal foreign men who are far from higher the mentioned phrase: " I want to marry on Russian, because himof anything... "

Let's start with that the man, wishing to find to itself the wife in the East Europe, it is spent for trips and meetings. Also on negotiations by phone, the help in payment to the girl of correspondence with him. Normal men offer russian girl from whom they seriously correspond, the help in payment of services the Internet or marriage agency. My husband (for that moment still the future) has suggested me to pay all my expenses for correspondence with him, on what I, on not clear to me now to the reasons, have refused. Just now already I understand, that anything shameful that the man sends money, no. Normal men before to engage in searches of the wife in the countries of former Soviet Union, get acquainted with a history of this country, iher culture and inquire about a standard of living there. I.e. they perfectly know, in what correspondence with him in relation to her salary manages to the girl. Also after a marriage you will visit native, to call and send them of money. It, though also not so big money under the western standards, all the same additional charges in your international family.

On arrival by you to the country of residing of your husband other charges begin. First, your health. If you have married for normal the man and he cares of yours health the first business he conducts you to the stomatologist. At all at us who have arrived from the countries of former Soviet Union, very bad teeth to the western measures. Here among men there is such saying: " If you are ready to buy to the stomatologist the new machine then you can marry on russian girl ". There is it really dearly, and most soon the stomatologist should work as order with your mouth. I never differed well very bad teeth in Ukraine so here I had to go to the stomatologist on a regular basis during one year.

Further there are charges on clothes. I.e. to your husband it is necessary to buy during the first year of your joint life to you anew all wardrobe. Has no any value how many you with itself have taken clothes from Russia, all the same you will want to replace gradually all her. I have taken with myself a lot of clothes, but for some reason on arrival here some things at once have postponed in a distant corner, and the others – gradually during the first year of my stay here. After the first year of a life abroad at girls usually any more does not remain in their wardrobe of things from Russia. Somehow they here are not entered. For many reasons. First, for example, my taste in clothes has changed " under influence of the West ". Do not think, that I have in view of, that I was lowered, have ceased to watchmyself how some girls in the letters write. In their opinion all also put on awfully. I very disagree with this opinion, but now I shall not go deep on a theme of appearance. Second, I began to understand better what type of clothes and color to me most of all goes. Still here constantly you are behind a rudder, and it also influences your wardrobe. Therefore too narrow or long skirts have disappeared and have given a up the place to skirts with classical long up to a knee., etc., etc.

And so, on your arrival or after the first year of a joint life your groom - husband most soon should buy to you a coat winter (decent to leave " in people "), a jacket winter (for walk, for example, on mountains), a coat autumn, boots winter, a minimum a pair of decent evening dresses, all possibleT-shirts, etc. If he married the compatriot he would not need to buy all this almost simultaneously. As any American, the French, etc. already have completed wardrobe, and she requires only any new things, instead of in all at once. And, in general, at her also the permanent job is present, and the own salary. So she and can buy all to herself.

Here we came to the following item – work. First time in the new country you will not work. I.e. your husband should provide family itself. While their compatriots have formation and stable work.

And still, that to the Russian woman to get good work, russian wife needs to teach language. The knowledge of language also is very important for your successful integration in a new society. It will enable you to take part in social and cultural actions, to not feel like is isolated and to be a pleased life. In Scandinavia, for example, for the foreigners living here it is constant, training to language free-of-charge. But in all other countries it is necessary to pay. Here to you also charges on training.

Because of your ignorance of language the first time to your husband is necessary to run from work among white day both always and everywhere to drive you for a hand, as the little girl. Also it(he) will need to help you with it would seem such elementary thing, as shopping. I remember, how my husband long stood in shops and read for me descriptions on packings than, for example, one tooth-paste differs from another. Also in a grocery supermarket you увидете before itself huge колличество various boxes and jars. That with them to do(make) you do not know. Here the help of your husband is again necessary at purchase of food stuffs and preparation of a dinner (Russian shops are not everywhere). The question here arises: whether " easier to him to marry on independent american woman? "

One international families of a problem with independence of the wife at the initial stage have less, others – have more. I, having arrived to live to Norway, did not know the Norwegian language, but I knew English. I.e. I could solve any problems itself with the help of English. But all the same absolutely without the help of the husband to you to not do without.

The following item – the property. The majority of women - has personal automobile. Here to be able to drive the automobile – all this it is equal what to be able to go on foot. In Russia build basically the big cities, and on the small area there lives enough a plenty of people in multi-storey blocks. Here on the contrary: cities small, on the big area lives small колличество people and the private sector prevails. I spend on road before work on the automobile of 10 minutes. If I used bus at me there would leave on road somewhere 1,5 hours. As in the beginning I would need to go on foot up to a nearby stop of the bus, and also to change from one bus to another. Change would take away much времни as the public transport goes with an interval in from 0,5 till 1 o'clock. So the machine here to not do without. And it is one more "minus" for the benefit of a marriage on the Russian ladies. Not only that russian wife does not have own automobile so still it is necessary for the man of him and to buy. And also to pay training on rates on driving, and it here is expensive.

Further - the real estate. The majority of the West-European or American women has real estate – for example, an apartment. Certainly the habitation here very expensive, and at her will be fastest the credit in bank on the apartment. All the same it is enough her salary to cover monthly payments under the credit and thus to have necessary money for a life. Also very much many women here are dissolved. At divorce the husband leaves to the wife the house, more often, and itself is cleaned and rents the apartment. Also the dissolved women receive the alimony on children and the grant from the state as mothers - singles. At Russian women it is not present anything.

Rather tempting and favourable prospect for the Norwegian men to connect the life, for example, with Norwegian women turns out. Is not that so?

You, certainly, in due course too will start to work and the personal charges and also a part family can undertake. But all the same you will need to do very long and complex way to your integration in a new society. And it entails certain spiritual and material inputs. I.e. the fact remains the fact – the marriage of the foreigner with the Russian woman assumes itself a monetary outlay which do not arise at all in a marriage with women from your country.